Comments on: Two Magic Words To Eliminate Anxiety and Panic http://www.thehappyself.com/two-magic-words-to-eliminate-anxiety-and-panic/ Personal Transformation for Thinking People Fri, 23 Jul 2010 01:36:15 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Two Magic Words To Eliminate Anxiety and Panic | Productivity Hacks http://www.thehappyself.com/two-magic-words-to-eliminate-anxiety-and-panic//comment-page-1#comment-895 Two Magic Words To Eliminate Anxiety and Panic | Productivity Hacks Thu, 15 Oct 2009 15:50:22 +0000 http://www.thehappyself.com/?p=2133#comment-895 [...] via TheHappySelf.com. [...] [...] via TheHappySelf.com. [...]

]]> By: John Culp http://www.thehappyself.com/two-magic-words-to-eliminate-anxiety-and-panic//comment-page-1#comment-888 John Culp Thu, 15 Oct 2009 02:26:06 +0000 http://www.thehappyself.com/?p=2133#comment-888 Excellent. Easy and simple and 100% on target. I wish someone would have sent this to me 50 years ago. Perfect. Thanks!! Excellent. Easy and simple and 100% on target. I wish someone would have sent this to me 50 years ago.

Perfect.

Thanks!!

]]> By: Nathan Sumner http://www.thehappyself.com/two-magic-words-to-eliminate-anxiety-and-panic//comment-page-1#comment-854 Nathan Sumner Sat, 10 Oct 2009 20:40:10 +0000 http://www.thehappyself.com/?p=2133#comment-854 Great article Dayne! I may have perfected the "what if" thinking lol. I had to share this story with you. It's 2005 and I am miserable...hated my job, my life, and where I lived. I wanted to live in Arizona and the planets aligned for me. I buddy called from Phoenix to say his roommate moved out and was wondering if I wanted to be his roommate (he knew of my desire to live in AZ). I took a few days to decide (just for my own peace of mind) and decided to make the move. I notified work (I was temping at the time and they were furious. Really? I was just a temp lol). I got a lot of "Oh good luck out there" and "you'll hate it out there" comments, but I pressed forward. I have to admit, I let some of the comments make me start to second-guess myself to the point where I started thinking "what if". Basically, I snapped myself out of it and said, "wait....so what if you're giving up everything in Florida? You're starting over and are happy about it-that's all that matters!" Well, 4 years later, I have a career, became a freelance writer, and bought my first house. NONE of this would have happened if I had let the anxiety get to me in 2005. Hope this story helps! :) Great article Dayne! I may have perfected the “what if” thinking lol. I had to share this story with you. It’s 2005 and I am miserable…hated my job, my life, and where I lived. I wanted to live in Arizona and the planets aligned for me. I buddy called from Phoenix to say his roommate moved out and was wondering if I wanted to be his roommate (he knew of my desire to live in AZ). I took a few days to decide (just for my own peace of mind) and decided to make the move. I notified work (I was temping at the time and they were furious. Really? I was just a temp lol). I got a lot of “Oh good luck out there” and “you’ll hate it out there” comments, but I pressed forward. I have to admit, I let some of the comments make me start to second-guess myself to the point where I started thinking “what if”. Basically, I snapped myself out of it and said, “wait….so what if you’re giving up everything in Florida? You’re starting over and are happy about it-that’s all that matters!”

Well, 4 years later, I have a career, became a freelance writer, and bought my first house. NONE of this would have happened if I had let the anxiety get to me in 2005.

Hope this story helps! :)

]]> By: Sana http://www.thehappyself.com/two-magic-words-to-eliminate-anxiety-and-panic//comment-page-1#comment-842 Sana Fri, 09 Oct 2009 05:24:17 +0000 http://www.thehappyself.com/?p=2133#comment-842 hey Dayne!! thanks for such a great post....i'm having a job interview tomorrow and i was feeling kinda nervous but after reading this post i m sure that i will do well tomorrow and even if i won't make it so what?!! ...so wish me luck and thanks again....xoxo Sana hey Dayne!! thanks for such a great post….i’m having a job interview tomorrow and i was feeling kinda nervous but after reading this post i m sure that i will do well tomorrow and even if i won’t make it so what?!! …so wish me luck and thanks again….xoxo Sana

]]> By: Sequoia http://www.thehappyself.com/two-magic-words-to-eliminate-anxiety-and-panic//comment-page-1#comment-812 Sequoia Tue, 06 Oct 2009 15:05:42 +0000 http://www.thehappyself.com/?p=2133#comment-812 Great blog! With a grateful bow to Dale Carnegie (who may sound like a way too dated source of wisdom), may I share his brilliant advice on the subject. Carnegie offers this profound FINAL step to the process of moving through the "So Whats". Take a realistic look at the WORST that could happen. Then, plan specifically for how to manage yourself through that. For me, this last step has been the linchpin to finding peace at the center of deep worry. Here's how I rescued myself from huge stress and saved a wilderness trip that it might have ruined: On night 1 of a 7 day Sierra Club trip into bear country, I discovered that my much-needed eyeglasses had been left at home. Being a hopelessly near-sighted contact lens wearer, thoughts of what would happen if there was an emergency at night (when my contact lenses would be out) started to flare up. Suddenly, I remembered Carnegie's advice while contemplating the potential horrors (bears, fire...) OK, I was perhaps hyperventilating just a bit ;-) Solution? Ask a neighboring camper if she would be willing to let me camp next to her nightly -- AND --lead me away by the hand if we suddenly had to move in the dark. Of course, she agreed. Worries ended.... Sequoia Great blog!

With a grateful bow to Dale Carnegie (who may sound like a way too dated source of wisdom), may I share his brilliant advice on the subject. Carnegie offers this profound FINAL step to the process of moving through the “So Whats”.

Take a realistic look at the WORST that could happen. Then, plan specifically for how to manage yourself through that. For me, this last step has been the linchpin to finding peace at the center of deep worry.

Here’s how I rescued myself from huge stress and saved a wilderness trip that it might have ruined: On night 1 of a 7 day Sierra Club trip into bear country, I discovered that my much-needed eyeglasses had been left at home. Being a hopelessly near-sighted contact lens wearer, thoughts of what would happen if there was an emergency at night (when my contact lenses would be out) started to flare up.

Suddenly, I remembered Carnegie’s advice while contemplating the potential horrors (bears, fire…) OK, I was perhaps hyperventilating just a bit ;-)

Solution? Ask a neighboring camper if she would be willing to let me camp next to her nightly — AND –lead me away by the hand if we suddenly had to move in the dark.

Of course, she agreed. Worries ended….

Sequoia

]]> By: Christian http://www.thehappyself.com/two-magic-words-to-eliminate-anxiety-and-panic//comment-page-1#comment-787 Christian Mon, 05 Oct 2009 02:21:27 +0000 http://www.thehappyself.com/?p=2133#comment-787 I just wanted to add my thoughts too. The ego is definitely a problem, but you can turn it around too, "Why is something so little going to stop me? I can work around this, what's the worst that can happen?" Also feeling you on planning out the worst case scenario option. But it's still very difficult sometimes...your feelings shove aside your logic and continue parading. Whenever I feel stressed/anxious/panicy, I say "Just. Be. It's all that you can do." If we're talking audio accompaniment I highly recommend DJ Tiesto's "Just be" and Audioslave's "Be Yourself". I just wanted to add my thoughts too. The ego is definitely a problem, but you can turn it around too, “Why is something so little going to stop me? I can work around this, what’s the worst that can happen?” Also feeling you on planning out the worst case scenario option. But it’s still very difficult sometimes…your feelings shove aside your logic and continue parading.

Whenever I feel stressed/anxious/panicy, I say “Just. Be. It’s all that you can do.”

If we’re talking audio accompaniment I highly recommend DJ Tiesto’s “Just be” and Audioslave’s “Be Yourself”.

]]> By: Dayne | TheHappySelf.com http://www.thehappyself.com/two-magic-words-to-eliminate-anxiety-and-panic//comment-page-1#comment-724 Dayne | TheHappySelf.com Mon, 28 Sep 2009 18:31:14 +0000 http://www.thehappyself.com/?p=2133#comment-724 Hey there Brianna! Oh, I LOVE your saying. It is simple, and direct, and I can easily see how it could have a very calming affect on the "monkey mind" like you say. I really appreciate you sharing that! Cheers, Dayne :) Hey there Brianna! Oh, I LOVE your saying. It is simple, and direct, and I can easily see how it could have a very calming affect on the “monkey mind” like you say. I really appreciate you sharing that!

Cheers,
Dayne :)

]]> By: Brianna http://www.thehappyself.com/two-magic-words-to-eliminate-anxiety-and-panic//comment-page-1#comment-716 Brianna Mon, 28 Sep 2009 14:45:36 +0000 http://www.thehappyself.com/?p=2133#comment-716 A friend of mine says what helps her, and I've found it helpful as well, is just taking a moment to center yourself when your brain is going every which way. A breath in while saying "just" and a breath out while saying "this". Just this. Makes me feel better every time, and calms the "monkey brain". : ) A friend of mine says what helps her, and I’ve found it helpful as well, is just taking a moment to center yourself when your brain is going every which way. A breath in while saying “just” and a breath out while saying “this”.

Just this.

Makes me feel better every time, and calms the “monkey brain”. : )

]]> By: Dayne | TheHappySelf.com http://www.thehappyself.com/two-magic-words-to-eliminate-anxiety-and-panic//comment-page-1#comment-713 Dayne | TheHappySelf.com Sun, 27 Sep 2009 16:29:57 +0000 http://www.thehappyself.com/?p=2133#comment-713 Hi Srinivas, thanks for commenting here! I appreciate you pointing out the info regarding Maslow and the Hierarchy of Needs (very good point!). That makes a lot of sense and ties in to the blog post perfectly! Thank you for sharing! Cheers, Dayne Hi Srinivas, thanks for commenting here! I appreciate you pointing out the info regarding Maslow and the Hierarchy of Needs (very good point!). That makes a lot of sense and ties in to the blog post perfectly!

Thank you for sharing!

Cheers,
Dayne

]]> By: Dayne | TheHappySelf.com http://www.thehappyself.com/two-magic-words-to-eliminate-anxiety-and-panic//comment-page-1#comment-712 Dayne | TheHappySelf.com Sun, 27 Sep 2009 16:28:15 +0000 http://www.thehappyself.com/?p=2133#comment-712 Ha, very true Danny! I guess that song would fit with this post now, wouldn't it! Thank you for commenting and stopping by here! :) Thanks again, Dayne Ha, very true Danny! I guess that song would fit with this post now, wouldn’t it! Thank you for commenting and stopping by here! :)

Thanks again,
Dayne

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