Comments on: How to Build Self Confidence 101

By: Rocky | R O C K O N O V A . C O M

Rocky | R O C K O N O V A . C O M — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 16:50:20 +0000

“Waking Up – Start with Gratitude”

always the best way to wake up and always the best way to set the mood for the day !
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By: alternaview - Sibyl

alternaview - Sibyl — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 03:07:11 +0000

Great topic with very helpful information. It is easy to overlook the importance of strengthening self confidence and even easier to assume that a lack of self confidence is not our issue. The reality is that a lot of us our plagued with doubts and uncertainty that can tie back to self confidence. We just have to acknowledge those thoughts and know what they are and then choose to do something about them. Thanks for the excellent guide and road map. It really is something that we need to continually focus on strengthening.
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By: Annabel Candy, Get In the Hot Spot

Annabel Candy, Get In the Hot Spot — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 11:50:11 +0000

I agree with you that “While it does seem like some people are simply born with the gift of self confidence, most of us actually do have to work to overcome self doubts” I often mention to people that they exude confidence in talks or meetings and they say they’re terrified inside. I guess you have to fake it to make it.

And as for the sub-conscious mind and all the evil little things it tries to plant in your mind who needs it. Just replace them with encouraging words and watch then wash away gradually.

Keep smiling and writing. This is a great subject and you tackled it well.

By: Kirsty

Kirsty — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 20:12:52 +0000

Hey Dayne, thanks for another great post!

These are great ways to help build self confidence… another I have found to work is changing self talk… how many times did I use to say “I am such an idiot” when I did something wrong?

After catching myself doing this several times I realised that no one was pulling me down more than myself! Time to change. Ok, I still get cranky if something doesn’t go the right way, but I have changed it from being my personal fault to “Darn!!” or the like.

After reading Learned Optimism at Uni I have used the techniques with our son. It makes a huge difference with his self confidence…

Have a great weekend,
Kirsty

By: Dayne | TheHappySelf.com

Dayne | TheHappySelf.com — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 21:21:39 +0000

Dani – Thank you for commenting here and re-Tweeting. Much appreciated as always and glad you liked the article.

Miche – Yes, opening the day and closing the day with gratitude is an excellent way to love our life and enjoy it, and gain confidence in it. Thanks for pointing that out as well and commenting.

Eduard – Hmm… good question. I guess 102 will work. Thanks for commenting!

Tristan – You are right, acceptance is a BIGGIE. I should have included that, thank you for making that point!

Rasheed – Thank you for commenting Rasheed, glad you enjoy the posts! Have a great one!
Dayne | TheHappySelf.com´s last blog ..How to Build Self Confidence 101

By: Rasheed Hooda

Rasheed Hooda — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 18:47:28 +0000

hey Dayne,

Great post! Not much to add after what Miche said.

Love your posts.

Thanks for being you.
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By: Tristan Lee

Tristan Lee — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 18:44:22 +0000

Thanks for this post Dayne. To add onto these tips on building self-confidence, I would say to accept one’s flaws or imperfections as a person, since trying to be perfect all the time can actually do the opposite and cause one to lose confidence. Also, to not care so much about what other people think, but value your own beliefs and trying your best to carry these beliefs outwards to the world.
Tristan Lee´s last blog ..How to Conquer Fear

By: Ideas With A Kick

Ideas With A Kick — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 18:14:35 +0000

Good tips Dayne. Like you said: 101. These are all ideas that are simple to apply and help boost confidence. Looking forward to 102 (or is it 202?)

Eduard
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By: Miche | Serenity Hacker

Miche | Serenity Hacker — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 16:19:16 +0000

Hi Dayne, this is really excellent. I think the fact that we can create what kind of day we have (one with more confidence, or otherwise) is so true depending on whether we put a little effort in that direction.

The two points you make which I think are the strongest is a gratitude practice in the morning and at night. The morning is the opening chapter…. How many of us wake up in fear of everything we need to do, or overwhelmed by the events we need to face? That sets the tone for the whole day, and most people don’t realize the importance of taking a few moments to shape your day right there. It just takes a few minutes but with deep breaths and affirmations of gratitude you can really change the course of your day, no matter what lay ahead.

Thanks for sharing this!
Miche
Miche | Serenity Hacker´s last blog ..3 Keys to Emotional Serenity

By: Positively Present

Positively Present — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 16:02:17 +0000

Self confidence is SO important and this is such an excellent post on it!! Thanks for these insights. It WILL be tweeted.
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