I want to be strong

A weak person wishes.
A strong person sets smart, stretching goals.

A weak person says “I can’t”.
A strong person asks “How can I make it happen?”

A weak person stops when they’ve completed what is expected.
A strong person considered those expectations to be the bare minimum and prides themselves on how much more they can achieve.

A weak person hits a wall and stops.
A strong person hits a wall and pushes forward.

A weak person complains.
A strong person helps.

A weak person gets frustrated at the challenges.
A strong person sees challenges as opportunities.

A weak person says “I’ve had enough”.
A strong person says “I can do more”.

A weak person avoids responsibility.
A strong person embraces responsibility.

A weak person envies successful people.
A strong person inspired by successful people.

A weak person says “I’m going to do it on my own because I want the glory”.
A strong person asks “Who can I get to help me?”

A weak person desperately wants to reach the top of the ladder.
A strong person enjoys the journey as much as the destination.

A weak person wants the reward now and willingly pays more for it afterward.
A strong person works hard now and looks forward to the reward later.

A weak person does whatever they can to avoid turmoil, discomfort, and effort.
A strong person accepts these challenges as a necessary cost of success.

A weak person measures their happiness by what they have.
A strong person chooses to be happy in whatever circumstance life has placed them in.

A weak person is content with what they know.
A strong person never stops learning.

A weak person talks but does not act.
A strong person lets their actions talk for them.

A weak person asks what they can get out of something.
A strong person asks what they can give.

A weak person wants to be healthier.
A strong person pushes through feels of procrastination to exercise.

A weak person wants to be like others.
A strong person wants to lead others.

A weak person finds the easy way.
A strong person makes their own way.

A weak person envies successful people but never achieves it themselves.
A strong person is successful.

Change is good

Now, I’m sure if you asked any handful of people walking down the street whether or not change is actually good for us the majority would say that “yes it is”. However ask those same people whether or not they actually like change, and most would reply with a resounding “NO”!

Now I do realize of course that not all change is good, and depending on current circumstances some may actually be unwanted for a very valid reason, but for the purposes of this particular blog post I’m going to discuss the change that we all seek out, but reject on the basic principle that change is unwanted, even when it’s something we actively strive for.

Take the individual who’s looking to drop 20 pounds before attending a high school reunion in the coming months. Ask them and they’ll tell you they want the particular change that comes with that goal, but when faced with the prospect of actually joining a gym, putting themselves “out there” and learning some new exercise routines in order to accomplish that goal and many of those same people balk.

The problem is that it’s easy to want something. It’s much harder to actually follow through and accomplish it however. I hear so many people claim that they desire to be rich. However when I then ask those same people what they’re doing to accomplish that goal they’ve just told me is important to them 99% are doing absolutely nothing in order to further it.

So just what can we do to not only figure out what it is we truly desire in life, but also give ourselves a decent chance at attaining those goals?

Well for starters it’s probably a good idea to sit down with a pen and paper and actually figure out the top ten things that are most important to you in life. If you’re married, or have children it might be a good idea to include them to make sure you’re goals are actually in alignment since these are the people you’re going to be spending your life with.

Now that you’ve got your list of things that you think are the absolute most important things to accomplish or achieve in your life write out the things you actually do on a day to day, month to month basis. Often people will find that what they do isn’t anywhere near in alignment with what it is they want.

If you are hoping to get in shape but don’t have a gym membership, or haven’t been making the time to actually go to the gym and work out, then you should either admit it isn’t actually something you want or adjust your schedule so that you are accomplishing this one goal each and every day you attend a class, or do a workout.

If spending time with your family made it on your list, but you find yourself working 60 hours a week just to make ends meet it’s time to devise a new strategy. Perhaps starting a part time home business won’t allow you to achieve your goal in the immediate future, but it might get you on a track that will allow it to happen in the future.

It’s important to remember that these are the things you’ve decided are the MOST important in YOUR life!

If you didn’t do something this week to bring you closer to the things you say are important in your life, then it’s time to make some changes. Either to your list or to the way you’re living your life.

My Bucket List

I think it’s important to have a list of things that we’d like to do or accomplish as we each journey through our individual lives. It helps keep us on track with some of the bigger, or even smaller things that we’d like to try at least once as we go through. Remember, we only go through life once, better to do it now rather than leave it till later.

It can also be a useful tool to show those people around you just what sort of a person you are, and what types of things you have an interest in. I wouldn’t be surprised if someone who see’s your list goes one step further and offers to help you with one of your goals.

(I was out driving with a friend one day, and as we drove by the Airport, I commented on a nice looking helicopter out front, I commented that I’d always wanted to fly in one, but never had as yet. Turns out his company needed him to rent one the following week to video an area they were going to be laying some pipe. He offered, I accepted, and the following week I spend two hours flying in the very helicopter I had commented on.

Scratched one more off my list!

I’ll share with you my own list in the hopes that it helps you to either create your own, or simply gives you a few things you’d like to add to your own.

My Bucket List

Completed

Not Completed

1.       Make someone laugh till they cry 2.       Laugh till I cry 3.       Find true love 4.       Befriend someone I don’t like 5.       Befriend a wild animal 6.       Be celibate for a whole year 7.       Fly in a helicopter 8.       Write a poem 9.       Dive to 225 feet 10.   Feed a wolf eel 11.   Feed a wild seal 12.   Pet a wild skunk 13.   Catch a bird with my bare hands 14.   Catch a fish with my bare hands 15.   Dive in a sub-marine 16.   Dive a sunken ship 17.   Dive with sharks 18.   Go to a museum 19.   Go to a wax museum 20.   Go to a planetarium 21.   Do a puzzle 22.   Save someone’s life 23.   See a play 24.   Drive a hummer 25.   drive a corvette 26.   Drive an 18 wheeler 27.   Be more assertive 28.   Go to college 29.   Get a tattoo 30.   Type at 65 words per minute 31.   Learn a poem 32.   Climb a mountain 33.   Swim across Lake Okanagan 34.   Skydive 35.   make  a collage 36.   Write a song 37.   Find silver in the wild 38.   Find nickel in the wild 39.   Hunt once 40.   Eat what I kill 41.   Spend a month in the wilderness 42.   Visit a ghost town 43.   Spend the night in jail 44.   Own a house 45.   Own my own business 46.   Love a child 47.   Drive across Canada 48.   Try Sushi 49.   Drive at 170 MPH 50.   Achieve 230 pounds at 9% body fat 51.   Weigh 270 pounds of muscle 52.   Bench press 400 pounds 53.   Bench press 500 pounds 54.   Give up Christmas to feed the homeless 55.   Be Happy 56.   Shave my head for Cancer 57.   Own a horse 58.   Own a dog 59.   Build an amazing computer system 60.   Build a website 61.   Go to a rock concert 62.   Buy property on the moon 63.   Go ocean fishing 64.   Go to the Aquarium 65.   Read the bible 66.   Read the Koran 67.   Get married 68.   Volunteer at the SPCA 69.   Watch a movie entirely in subtitles 70.   Watch a movie alone in a theatre 71.   Talk to someone famous 72.   Do lots of good deeds 73.   Be in two places at once 74.   Sing Karaoke 75.   Change a diaper 76.   Go to a comedy show 77.   Give someone a chance 78.   Make another list

1.       Write a book 2.       Fly a plane 3.       Go up in a hot air balloon 4.       Fly a hang glider 5.       Para glide 6.       Swim with Dolphins 7.       See an opera 8.       Go to a ballet 9.       Solve the rubics cube 10.   Drive a Ferrari 11.   Learn another language 12.   Learn a programming language 13.   Learn sign language 14.   Sleep in a hammock 15.   Spend the night on the beach 16.   Freefall from 10,000 feet 17.   Ride a horse on the beach 18.   See the Grand Canyon 19.   Find gold in the wild 20.   Write a program 21.   Visit the Dalai Lama 22.   Have a family 23.   Learn to cook 24.   Learn to play an instrument 25.   Invent something 26.   Make a difference 27.   Ride a camel 28.   Go whitewater rafting 29.   Volunteer for Habitat  for Humanity 30.   Make a million dollars 31.   Be debt free 32.   Go up in the CN Tower 33.   Visit the Eiffel tower 34.   Visit the Louvre 35.   Visit the North Pole 36.   Visit the Pyramids 37.   Visit the Eiffel tower 38.   Visit the Empire State Building 39.   Learn how to juggle 40.   Play paintball 41.   Earn a hundred thousand dollars a year 42.   Sleep on a boat 43.   Go rock wall climbing

 

And I am continually on the lookout for new and exciting things to add to my list, so if you the reader would like to share your own “Bucket List” with us, I look forward to reading them!

Once again thank you all for reading TheHappySelf.com

Warren

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