Comments on: Are We Communicating More and Listening Less? http://www.thehappyself.com/are-we-communicating-more-and-listening-less/ Personal Transformation for Thinking People Sat, 14 Aug 2010 03:33:17 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Kaushik http://www.thehappyself.com/are-we-communicating-more-and-listening-less//comment-page-1#comment-745 Kaushik Wed, 30 Sep 2009 20:19:56 +0000 http://www.thehappyself.com/?p=2579#comment-745 Yup, great article, we are listening less and less. A little easy trick is to keep attention in the inner body while listening, and it opens us up. thanks! .-= Kaushik´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/BeyondKarma/~3/dxnV80wI-ow/" rel="nofollow">Floating…</a> =-. Yup, great article, we are listening less and less. A little easy trick is to keep attention in the inner body while listening, and it opens us up.

thanks!
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]]> By: Dayne | TheHappySelf.com http://www.thehappyself.com/are-we-communicating-more-and-listening-less//comment-page-1#comment-737 Dayne | TheHappySelf.com Wed, 30 Sep 2009 14:55:50 +0000 http://www.thehappyself.com/?p=2579#comment-737 Hey there John, welcome to this blog and thank you for commenting! Ahh, you make an EXCELLENT point John. In everyone's story, there is actually a bit of us in it and things we can learn. I love that! In many ways, they mirror us in various manners. All of what you said does not sound strange to me at all, it makes perfect sense. Thank you for sharing! Feel free to stop by again John! Cheers, Dayne Hey there John, welcome to this blog and thank you for commenting!

Ahh, you make an EXCELLENT point John. In everyone’s story, there is actually a bit of us in it and things we can learn. I love that! In many ways, they mirror us in various manners. All of what you said does not sound strange to me at all, it makes perfect sense. Thank you for sharing!

Feel free to stop by again John!

Cheers,
Dayne

]]> By: Dayne | TheHappySelf.com http://www.thehappyself.com/are-we-communicating-more-and-listening-less//comment-page-1#comment-736 Dayne | TheHappySelf.com Wed, 30 Sep 2009 14:53:21 +0000 http://www.thehappyself.com/?p=2579#comment-736 Walter, yes, that dreaded ego once again gets in the way. You are absolutely correct. I think getting our attitudes in check is key like you say. And yes, silence can be much more important than speech! Thanks again! Dayne Walter, yes, that dreaded ego once again gets in the way. You are absolutely correct. I think getting our attitudes in check is key like you say. And yes, silence can be much more important than speech!

Thanks again!
Dayne

]]> By: Dayne | TheHappySelf.com http://www.thehappyself.com/are-we-communicating-more-and-listening-less//comment-page-1#comment-735 Dayne | TheHappySelf.com Wed, 30 Sep 2009 14:52:01 +0000 http://www.thehappyself.com/?p=2579#comment-735 Hey Alternaview, thanks for the fantastic comment! I have to agree with you, the more you actually listen, the more the actual experience comes to life. I think the reason why is because that voice in our mind gets shut down and we become present, and being mindful always brings life (and conversation) alive. Thanks again! Dayne :) Hey Alternaview, thanks for the fantastic comment! I have to agree with you, the more you actually listen, the more the actual experience comes to life. I think the reason why is because that voice in our mind gets shut down and we become present, and being mindful always brings life (and conversation) alive.

Thanks again!
Dayne :)

]]> By: John Duffield http://www.thehappyself.com/are-we-communicating-more-and-listening-less//comment-page-1#comment-733 John Duffield Wed, 30 Sep 2009 10:14:12 +0000 http://www.thehappyself.com/?p=2579#comment-733 Hi Dayne. This is surely a powerful post, because listening is something of a lost Art in today's world. If I may, I'd like to add something about listening for your audience. I'll start with a question. Would you bother listening to yourself? You would? Alright so let's make up a little story. Imagine for a moment that your spouse, partner, friends or acquaintences were odd images in an Alice-in-Wonderland mirror. They're strange, distorted reflections of YOU. You haven't been paying attention to what they're saying though. Why? Well....you didn't think they had anything of value to say. You didn't think THEIR stories were relevant to YOUR life. But suddenly you realize their lives and yours are really one and the same. Suddenly you see you and they are parts of one whole. Now what? Now you listen to every single soul out there. How come? You know for sure you can learn something to apply to your own life. End of little story. But what does it have to do with you and I? As it turns out, it's a true story. Listening to what anyone has to say about anything can help each of us with our lives......because we're all different parts of One Life. We're all diverse facets of one whole. If this sounds stranger than fiction to you.....that's because it's the truth. Best wishes Dayne. John Duffield .-= John Duffield´s last blog ..<a href="http://ourcryforhelp.wordpress.com/2009/09/28/heartshots-for-the-law-of-attraction/" rel="nofollow">Heartshots For the Law of Attraction</a> =-. Hi Dayne. This is surely a powerful post, because listening is something of a lost Art in today’s world. If I may, I’d like to add something about listening for your audience. I’ll start with a question. Would you bother listening to yourself? You would? Alright so let’s make up a little story. Imagine for a moment that your spouse, partner, friends or acquaintences were odd images in an Alice-in-Wonderland mirror. They’re strange, distorted reflections of YOU. You haven’t been paying attention to what they’re saying though. Why? Well….you didn’t think they had anything of value to say. You didn’t think THEIR stories were relevant to YOUR life. But suddenly you realize their lives and yours are really one and the same. Suddenly you see you and they are parts of one whole. Now what? Now you listen to every single soul out there. How come? You know for sure you can learn something to apply to your own life. End of little story. But what does it have to do with you and I? As it turns out, it’s a true story. Listening to what anyone has to say about anything can help each of us with our lives……because we’re all different parts of One Life. We’re all diverse facets of one whole. If this sounds stranger than fiction to you…..that’s because it’s the truth. Best wishes Dayne. John Duffield
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]]> By: Walter http://www.thehappyself.com/are-we-communicating-more-and-listening-less//comment-page-1#comment-732 Walter Wed, 30 Sep 2009 02:28:38 +0000 http://www.thehappyself.com/?p=2579#comment-732 All what you have elaborated here are extremely important, yet many neglect. I guess when it comes to talking, we like more of hearing our self than the other. As always, the enemy is our ego. Unless we are aware of our attitudes towards communication we can never be an effective listener. Sometimes silence is more eloquent than speech. :-) .-= Walter´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.lionslinger.com/2009/09/29/why-are-we-having-problems-with-problem/" rel="nofollow">Why are we having problems with problem?</a> =-. All what you have elaborated here are extremely important, yet many neglect. I guess when it comes to talking, we like more of hearing our self than the other. As always, the enemy is our ego. Unless we are aware of our attitudes towards communication we can never be an effective listener.

Sometimes silence is more eloquent than speech. :-)
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]]> By: alternaview http://www.thehappyself.com/are-we-communicating-more-and-listening-less//comment-page-1#comment-731 alternaview Tue, 29 Sep 2009 10:14:14 +0000 http://www.thehappyself.com/?p=2579#comment-731 You consistently hit all the good and important topics that are so easy to overlook and not focus on. You would think that listening is one of those things that comes naturally and just about anyone can do it, however, as you pointed out, there are effective ways of listening that really do take discipline and focus. The great thing I have noticed is that the better you are at listening, the more you get out of every experience and encounter with someone. I came across a theory that explained that everyone you interact with throughout the day has either something important to tell you or there is an important takeaway message. The key though is that you have to be really listening in order to determine exactly what you are supposed to be taking away from every encounter. I always try and approach conversations this way and when I focus on the importance of really listening so that I don't miss anything, I have found I am better at being truly engaged in what someone else is saying. To me, listening is yet another important ability to develop that allows you to really capture experiences you may otherwise overlook or miss out on. Thanks for bringing this top of mind. .-= alternaview´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/alternaview/~3/xba9-SqkD5w/" rel="nofollow">Why Be Nice?</a> =-. You consistently hit all the good and important topics that are so easy to overlook and not focus on. You would think that listening is one of those things that comes naturally and just about anyone can do it, however, as you pointed out, there are effective ways of listening that really do take discipline and focus. The great thing I have noticed is that the better you are at listening, the more you get out of every experience and encounter with someone. I came across a theory that explained that everyone you interact with throughout the day has either something important to tell you or there is an important takeaway message. The key though is that you have to be really listening in order to determine exactly what you are supposed to be taking away from every encounter. I always try and approach conversations this way and when I focus on the importance of really listening so that I don’t miss anything, I have found I am better at being truly engaged in what someone else is saying. To me, listening is yet another important ability to develop that allows you to really capture experiences you may otherwise overlook or miss out on. Thanks for bringing this top of mind.
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]]> By: Dayne | TheHappySelf.com http://www.thehappyself.com/are-we-communicating-more-and-listening-less//comment-page-1#comment-730 Dayne | TheHappySelf.com Tue, 29 Sep 2009 02:37:51 +0000 http://www.thehappyself.com/?p=2579#comment-730 Hey there David, how are you doing these days? Yes, it is amazing how much we tend to let our ego and competition come into play during conversations. I know I have that problem of correcting at times (I hate that I do that), but I'm working on being patient and just listening. Thanks again for commenting David! Dayne Hey there David, how are you doing these days? Yes, it is amazing how much we tend to let our ego and competition come into play during conversations. I know I have that problem of correcting at times (I hate that I do that), but I’m working on being patient and just listening.

Thanks again for commenting David!

Dayne

]]> By: Dayne | TheHappySelf.com http://www.thehappyself.com/are-we-communicating-more-and-listening-less//comment-page-1#comment-729 Dayne | TheHappySelf.com Tue, 29 Sep 2009 02:35:43 +0000 http://www.thehappyself.com/?p=2579#comment-729 Gordie, what a brilliant idea you just commented! That is an excellent thing to keep in mind during conversations for sure. I love it! Thank you for sharing! Cheers, Dayne Gordie, what a brilliant idea you just commented! That is an excellent thing to keep in mind during conversations for sure. I love it! Thank you for sharing!

Cheers,
Dayne

]]> By: David Damron http://www.thehappyself.com/are-we-communicating-more-and-listening-less//comment-page-1#comment-728 David Damron Tue, 29 Sep 2009 01:33:19 +0000 http://www.thehappyself.com/?p=2579#comment-728 STOP COMPETING AND STOP INTERRUPTING!!!! Those are huge changes I need to make and have started changing. I always try to one-up which is a horrible characteristic. I am horrible about correcting others. The whole conversation turns from 'topic' to 'editing'. Great advice Dayne. All I can promise is continued growth. Your advice will definitely help with that. Dave LifeExcursion .-= David Damron´s last blog ..<a href="http://lifeexcursion.com/index.php/week-20/" rel="nofollow">A Week on $20</a> =-. STOP COMPETING AND STOP INTERRUPTING!!!!

Those are huge changes I need to make and have started changing. I always try to one-up which is a horrible characteristic. I am horrible about correcting others. The whole conversation turns from ‘topic’ to ‘editing’.

Great advice Dayne. All I can promise is continued growth. Your advice will definitely help with that.

Dave
LifeExcursion
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