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		<pubDate>Thu, 25 Aug 2011 19:48:49 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Thank you for all of the effort on this blog</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thank you for all of the effort on this blog</p>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 25 Aug 2011 19:40:36 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Nice post. I learn something on totally different blogs everyday. It can at all times be stimulating to read content material from different writers and observe just a little something from their blog.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Nice post. I learn something on totally different blogs everyday. It can at all times be stimulating to read content material from different writers and observe just a little something from their blog.</p>
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		<title>By: Dayne &#124; TheHappySelf.com</title>
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		<dc:creator>Dayne &#124; TheHappySelf.com</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 23 Sep 2009 13:48:00 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hey there Mel, thank you so much for commenting here. Yes, research is always a good thing. I wish you the very best with your first child! :)

Cheers to you,
Dayne
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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hey there Mel, thank you so much for commenting here. Yes, research is always a good thing. I wish you the very best with your first child! <img src='http://www.thehappyself.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p>Cheers to you,<br />
Dayne<br />
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		<title>By: Mel the Dietitian</title>
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		<dc:creator>Mel the Dietitian</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 23 Sep 2009 10:43:18 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I&#039;m expecting my first child in a few weeks, so this article is really great timing! Thank you! :-)

I think point 8 is particularly good, I&#039;ve found reading and learning about the whole process to be extremely helpful.
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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;m expecting my first child in a few weeks, so this article is really great timing! Thank you! <img src='http://www.thehappyself.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':-)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p>I think point 8 is particularly good, I&#8217;ve found reading and learning about the whole process to be extremely helpful.<br />
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		<title>By: Dayne &#124; TheHappySelf.com</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 21 Sep 2009 15:45:29 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Robin, I think you are spot on in the fact that fear is an indicator that we are edging out of our comfort zones. That is always a good thing. I think the problem is when people have fear that is out of proportion to the reality at hand...then it becomes a problem (like fear of going to the grocery store, etc.). 

So yes, to answer your question, there is definitely a positive side to normal fear. The beauty of it, or the real gift, is when we walk right through our fears to the other side. :)

Thanks for commenting Robin!
Dayne</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Robin, I think you are spot on in the fact that fear is an indicator that we are edging out of our comfort zones. That is always a good thing. I think the problem is when people have fear that is out of proportion to the reality at hand&#8230;then it becomes a problem (like fear of going to the grocery store, etc.). </p>
<p>So yes, to answer your question, there is definitely a positive side to normal fear. The beauty of it, or the real gift, is when we walk right through our fears to the other side. <img src='http://www.thehappyself.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p>Thanks for commenting Robin!<br />
Dayne</p>
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		<title>By: Dayne &#124; TheHappySelf.com</title>
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		<dc:creator>Dayne &#124; TheHappySelf.com</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 21 Sep 2009 15:42:39 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Wow, BB, that is quite a comment and THANK YOU for sharing your method. That seems very very interesting and I know not only will I benefit from your information, but so will others that read here. Thank you so much for taking time to share so much!

Thanks again,
Dayne :)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Wow, BB, that is quite a comment and THANK YOU for sharing your method. That seems very very interesting and I know not only will I benefit from your information, but so will others that read here. Thank you so much for taking time to share so much!</p>
<p>Thanks again,<br />
Dayne <img src='http://www.thehappyself.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
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		<title>By: Dayne &#124; TheHappySelf.com</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 21 Sep 2009 15:41:38 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Absolutely Barb, practice is key for sure! And that Roosevelt quote is perfect. I should have added that quote to the blog post! :)

Thanks for commenting!
Dayne</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Absolutely Barb, practice is key for sure! And that Roosevelt quote is perfect. I should have added that quote to the blog post! <img src='http://www.thehappyself.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p>Thanks for commenting!<br />
Dayne</p>
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		<title>By: Dayne &#124; TheHappySelf.com</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 21 Sep 2009 15:40:37 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Yes, that is sad David. When us humans can get over our ego and simply reach out, people are always willing to help. :) In fact, many times it makes them feel good to help...so everyone wins!

Cheers,
Dayne :)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Yes, that is sad David. When us humans can get over our ego and simply reach out, people are always willing to help. <img src='http://www.thehappyself.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' />  In fact, many times it makes them feel good to help&#8230;so everyone wins!</p>
<p>Cheers,<br />
Dayne <img src='http://www.thehappyself.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
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		<title>By: Robin Dickinson</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 21 Sep 2009 08:52:38 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Dayne, that&#039;s an excellent post, offering practical advice rather than woolly theory.

I would add that fear (in very small doses) can also be a useful indicator that you are edging out of your comfort zone. 

This kind of fear manifests more like a mild anxiety - a thrill even.  As long as it doesn&#039;t then cascade into a debilitating dread, it can be an important sign that you are forging into new territory - the land of the &#039;yet to be discovered&#039;.

Just wanted to throw that into the mix.

What do you think, Dayne?  Is there a positive side to fear beyond protecting us from danger?

Best, Robin
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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dayne, that&#8217;s an excellent post, offering practical advice rather than woolly theory.</p>
<p>I would add that fear (in very small doses) can also be a useful indicator that you are edging out of your comfort zone. </p>
<p>This kind of fear manifests more like a mild anxiety &#8211; a thrill even.  As long as it doesn&#8217;t then cascade into a debilitating dread, it can be an important sign that you are forging into new territory &#8211; the land of the &#8216;yet to be discovered&#8217;.</p>
<p>Just wanted to throw that into the mix.</p>
<p>What do you think, Dayne?  Is there a positive side to fear beyond protecting us from danger?</p>
<p>Best, Robin<br />
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		<title>By: BB</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 18 Sep 2009 20:42:14 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Fear is one of those things that had kept me from focusing on my goals.  Often the thought that created the fear would just crop up and leave me feeling paralized, emotionally and I would no longer be able to function.
 
It&#039;s hard to stay focused on our goals when random thoughts and images pop in and out of our minds causing unproductive and, at times, dangerous distraction. Beyond that, it&#039;s almost impossible to fall asleep when our thought take over at night. It&#039;s as if we have no control of our thought processes and as a captive audience to the misery they provoke we become victims of our own minds. Surprisingly, I learned that it doesn&#039;t have to be that way.

How then to stop fearful and painful thoughts from creeping into your head?  I believe I have conquered a good deal of the problem when I realized that thoughts are an actions that you actually have control over. You can can choose to think about whatever it is that you wish to occupy your mind with. Unlike dreaming, where scenes pop in and out uncontrollably, thoughts though seemingly random, can be controlled with some practice. The most disturbing thoughts and images can be, if not prevented entirely, snuffed out almost as immediately as they occur.

A little trick I use, I call the bug, bubble, seed technique. What I have found is that any thought or image can be categorized into one of these three images.

First, the bug category I use for any thought that makes me cringe. It can be of a person, an event, or activity that I absolutely cannot bear to think about, deal with, or lose sleep over. These awful thought provoking images, I see as big ugly bugs to be exterminated. This enables my ability to dismiss the thought immediately, and is the easiest of all unwelcome thoughts to rid oneself of.

Next, the bubble. I use this for any scenario that might create a state of sadness, or reflecting on it might cause the shifting away from the present. Any thought that fits into this category has the power to impair our ability to function or think clearly. The bubble may hold precious moments and even memories of loved ones, but can still cause an adverse effect if it floats into our minds at inappropriate times. To deal with the bubble, I acknowledge it&#039;s presence as it drifts into my mind, allowing it to float away to return at a time of my own choosing.

Lastly, the seed. A positive thought that energizes, motivates and enable creative thinking. The seed also allows us to go outside of ourselves and reach out to others. Depending upon the moment that you&#039;re in, the seed can be stored for planting at a future time, or immediately cultivated when the moment is right. The seed often represents a welcomed image that can reverse a creative block or be the resolution to a long standing problem. 

Using these three categories for dealing with random thoughts, Has allowed me to be totally in control, stay focused on the task at hand, and experience inner peace or meditative relaxation.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Fear is one of those things that had kept me from focusing on my goals.  Often the thought that created the fear would just crop up and leave me feeling paralized, emotionally and I would no longer be able to function.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s hard to stay focused on our goals when random thoughts and images pop in and out of our minds causing unproductive and, at times, dangerous distraction. Beyond that, it&#8217;s almost impossible to fall asleep when our thought take over at night. It&#8217;s as if we have no control of our thought processes and as a captive audience to the misery they provoke we become victims of our own minds. Surprisingly, I learned that it doesn&#8217;t have to be that way.</p>
<p>How then to stop fearful and painful thoughts from creeping into your head?  I believe I have conquered a good deal of the problem when I realized that thoughts are an actions that you actually have control over. You can can choose to think about whatever it is that you wish to occupy your mind with. Unlike dreaming, where scenes pop in and out uncontrollably, thoughts though seemingly random, can be controlled with some practice. The most disturbing thoughts and images can be, if not prevented entirely, snuffed out almost as immediately as they occur.</p>
<p>A little trick I use, I call the bug, bubble, seed technique. What I have found is that any thought or image can be categorized into one of these three images.</p>
<p>First, the bug category I use for any thought that makes me cringe. It can be of a person, an event, or activity that I absolutely cannot bear to think about, deal with, or lose sleep over. These awful thought provoking images, I see as big ugly bugs to be exterminated. This enables my ability to dismiss the thought immediately, and is the easiest of all unwelcome thoughts to rid oneself of.</p>
<p>Next, the bubble. I use this for any scenario that might create a state of sadness, or reflecting on it might cause the shifting away from the present. Any thought that fits into this category has the power to impair our ability to function or think clearly. The bubble may hold precious moments and even memories of loved ones, but can still cause an adverse effect if it floats into our minds at inappropriate times. To deal with the bubble, I acknowledge it&#8217;s presence as it drifts into my mind, allowing it to float away to return at a time of my own choosing.</p>
<p>Lastly, the seed. A positive thought that energizes, motivates and enable creative thinking. The seed also allows us to go outside of ourselves and reach out to others. Depending upon the moment that you&#8217;re in, the seed can be stored for planting at a future time, or immediately cultivated when the moment is right. The seed often represents a welcomed image that can reverse a creative block or be the resolution to a long standing problem. </p>
<p>Using these three categories for dealing with random thoughts, Has allowed me to be totally in control, stay focused on the task at hand, and experience inner peace or meditative relaxation.</p>
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